Words Of Wisdom
(A Collection of sayings heard at meetings)
Honesty ---- Step 1 - “admitted”
Openness --- Step 2 – “came to believe”
Willingness --- Step 3 – “made a decision”
I have issues – it’s you, it’s you, it’s you (“itsyous”).
Attitude of Gratitude
Forgive: give something else for/give something else instead of
A codependent is an egomaniac with an inferiority complex.
Codependents’ Motto: “Without you, I am not me.”
This too shall pass.
One day at a time.
Turn it over.
I can't, God can. I think I'll let Him (or Her).
God doesn't close one door without opening another.
Keep it simple.
But for the grace of God, there go I.
People helping people.
BIBLE = Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth.
Just for today.
Everything happens for a reason.
You are right where you are supposed to be.
Time takes time.
Put one foot in front of the other.
Think, think, think.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
You reap what you sow.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to overcome it.
Being willing to risk being wrong.
You can’t talk your way out of something you acted your way into.
Living Amends are when I change my behavior.
I now see red flags when I used to only see green lights.
What you miss in the 4th step, you can clean up in the 10th step.
Seek interior silence.
The mind is a dangerous neighborhood; don’t go in alone.
If you have a resentment for someone, pray for them for 15 (or 30) days. Pray that they receive what you want.
It feeds me, and I need to be fed.
I’ve suffered from many hardships in my life, many of which have never happened.
“Good morning, God,” instead of “Good God, it’s morning.”
Thy will be done.
Thy will, not my will. (re: Step 11)
Just do the next right thing. That’s God’s will.
Trust God. Clean House. Help Others.
I hid in relationships so I didn’t have to deal with me.
You are the only person you will ever love who will never leave you.
I’m a human being, not a human doing.
Step 1 is good for me because it’s a chance to start over.
I need to take Step 2 when ever I feel FAP – fear, anger, or pain.
You can fire your old God.
My glasses are covered with low self-esteem and everything I see is coated with that. (from a CoDA meeting)
Sometimes, having a higher power is like having a good friend. Yes, we’re good friends. We’ve known each other for years – I just don’t call.
What they told me when I began in CoDA was to come to at least six meetings and then if I decided this program wasn’t for me, they’d “cheerfully refund my misery.”
The best guarantee for your future is to live today really well.
God is a gentleman and he doesn’t come in unless you ask him.
A 12-step meeting is a lot like an orgy – You leave feeling really good but you’re not sure who to thank.”
CODA = Counting On Divine Assistance
Eat when you are hungry...sleep when tired...radical idea
I want, and think I need the following, without being needy:
Time, touch, availability, attention, acceptance to grow up, self esteem, self acknowledgment, intimacy, appropriate sex, travel, another change, massage, exercise, music, dance, less busyness, feedback when I ask for it, peer support, family support, meetings, co-sponsors, honest direct communications, better God sense, better program, walk the walk, grandkids, sons-daughters in laws--perfect onesless unsolicited advise, fewer rules, permission to break rules, humor, therapy, not to make long lists
thanks for any that you will for me
Let Go...Or Be Dragged
a normal person be angry?
Anger is not a character defect, it is how you use it.
Don't quit before your miracle
The only way through the pain is through it
God don't make no junk
Fear is a four letter word
Feel the fear, and do it anyway.
You don't know until you KNOW
I hear what you say, but I believe what you do
You can't until you CAN
If I stop people-pleasing, people will not be pleased.
In recovery I admit I learned a different game, and become willing to learn the real one.